Since receiving the link invitation Until the big day has concluded, there are many details that must be taken into account to get the bride and groom right, help them and look great with them. The perfect wedding guest It is not just because of the clothes you wear or for complying with the stipulated etiquette in these types of events. He is especially so because of his education, his knowing how to be and knowing unwritten rules of protocol that the couple will appreciate and be grateful. A set of recommendations and gestures to make things easy for the couple, which everyone should know and which we have compiled in this simple guide.
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© Rosa ClaráRSVP as soon as possible
No matter how much trust the guest has with the couple, for better organization, it will always be more beneficial for her to confirm attendance at the wedding as soon as possible. This will facilitate the preparations and numbers that the couple must do before the big day. It is important that it be done through the channels that the protagonists indicate in your invitation (by phone, by email, by visiting your website or through a questionnaire). If you are not going to attend, you must also notify us in advance.
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© @kinvitadasRule out wearing white (or a color that is similar)
Perhaps this point is directly linked to etiquette, but the truth is that it is also a question of education. Resorting to white or similar colors, such as beige, off-white, bone or stone, cream or excessively light grays, borders on being controversial and may reflect an interest in taking the bride’s prominence away. There are numerous colors to match without having to fall into this compromised color range.
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© @martinaporelnorte. Photo: @afilmoveThe rules that the couple establishes are there to be followed
Although it may seem to the guest that ‘because you are who you are’, the couple can make an exception, the truth is that the rules are for everyone and put the couple in the position of having to explain why they have decided to do something In a concrete way, it is in bad taste. If the bride and groom do not want children, the guests will have to respect the choice. If they choose a specific place to catch the bus, they are not going to change that point because someone asks them to. If the bride requests that no guest wear pink, this color cannot be used. If benches are reserved for witnesses, other people may not sit on them. It’s the couple’s day and their requests must be respected.
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© @cartujadesevillaThe gift for the bride and groom must be made before the week of the wedding.
Although in the past there were those who preferred to wait until the wedding day to personally give the gift to the couple, the truth is that for security reasons and with the aim of providing facilities to the couple, this is no longer the case. Because Many providers ask the couple to pay everything a week before the wedding.it is important that this detail (whether economic or material) is anticipated for that week of stress and final preparations. Besides, if the guest does not attend the wedding, it is also polite to give the couple a detail. Although this last custom is being lost, it denotes gratitude, despite not being able to be present.
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© We are BonjourIf there is a wedding list, use it
The guest may be very excited to give a painting with history, however, without knowing the tastes of the bride and groom and the style of their home, it is taking too much risk. If the couple creates a wedding registry, it will be easy to find a piece that excites them and fits the budget of that guest. And so everyone will be happy.
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© @momentosdeunavidaDon’t come after the bride
Being late to weddings is never an option. Unless force majeure prevents these guests from being punctual, the ideal will be for them to be present fifteen minutes before the ceremony begins and be witnesses of the entry of the bridegroom and the bride. It is also not appropriate to miss key moments of that day to talk on the phone, go out to smoke or have a drink in nearby areas.
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© @palogocaAt the ceremony, remain silent
Although there are times when the guests Tears may come to your eyes and there are comments that may bring a smile to your face.most of the ceremony (whether religious or civil) will require remaining silent. Unless the guest must read or there is a surprise prepared for the couple, the most normal thing is not to speak until this moment of the day is over.
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© @alexvidal_atelier. Photo: @danifuentes___Congratulate the bride and groom before the wedding
Perhaps it is impossible for that shy guest, but the usual thing is that at the end of the ceremony or upon arriving at the celebration space, she comes to congratulate the couple. There may be many people who want to congratulate the newlyweds, but there will always be an occasion, no matter how small it may seem, to do it and compliment the wonderful day.
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© Carmen and Diego. Photo: @diegomontilla_fotografiaChat with those at your table, with a smile
It is important to recognize that preparing the wedding tables, correctly do a seating plan so that all the guests are comfortable, it is not an easy task. The bride and groom create each table with the best of intentions, even if they are not always going to find their best friends. The truth is that the moment of the invitation is brief and far from being boring, it can create prolific and very pleasant relationships with the other members of that meeting. Therefore, we advise you not to complain and to talk to those at your table with a smile. Attitude is everything.
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© Rosa ClaráIt’s not cell phone day
Although you can take some nice photos or a funny video, the truth is that the ceremony and the banquet are not moments for the mobile phone (the guests Yes, they will have more freedom to use it during the party). In the first case, because all the attention must be placed on a symbolic part to which the couple has dedicated time, affection and effort. In the second case, because the aperitif and the banquet are settings for meeting, laughter and conversation; not social escape with the phone. It is not a matter of protocol (only), it is a matter of education.
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© @historiasqueempiezanconunsiGetting up at the banquet is not allowed
Whether a wedding with one or two courses, celebrated at noon or at night, getting up at the banquet is not appropriate (unless it is to go to the bathroom). If all the guests stood up, the service would be very complicated and the catering would have problems to deliver all the dishes at the right time. There is only one exception: the moment of the bouquet delivery, which causes those lucky guests to receive a bouquet of flowers (and those around them to cheer them on) and, therefore, stand up.
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© @nolita_studioAfter the wedding, thank you for the invitation
The popular Spanish proverb says that it is a good thing to be grateful and that is why it is advisable that after the wedding, the next day, the guests Thank the couple for making an unforgettable day. It is common for a wedding to be a reason to remember over time and there may possibly be moments that go down in the history of that friendship, so saying thank you should not be something complicated between friends.